The Path of Mastery: True NLP Skills

“A human act once set in motion flows on forever to the great account. Our deathlessness is in what we do, not in what we are.”

– George Meredith 

This article gets into the details of mastering NLP well beyond just using its patterns. It tells you what you need to know in order to become a skillful master of NLP. 

Phases of Development

People tend to gain mastery of NLP in phases. The ones that follow are fairly typical. Many other people do not gain mastery of NLP, and that’s because they do not go beyond phase two or three. Most NLP practitioners appear to feel that NLP mastery begins to develop at phase four. I hope that this article inspires you to go for all phases of development, and to understand why I feel that mastery is actually in phase six. 

1) Getting oriented to the core ideas of NLP: 

Many people start by reading various books and articles, and perhaps attending some talks or watching online presentations. 

2) Learning and practicing patterns: 

Many of us started by applying NLP techniques to ourselves. This gives us a good feel for the patterns and more insight into how to use them with others. This also gives us the personal benefits of the patterns, making us even better practitioners. Our own issues will be less likely to get in the way of NLP practice, and we become more observant and responsive. 

3) Learning more about the models that patterns come from: 

This gives you a more functional understanding of the patterns–when to use them, and how they can be arranged strategically in setting up additional change (larger-scale syntax and strategy). This helps you become more than a parrot that can reproduce various patterns, but someone who really understand the patterns and underlying principles. With this, you can use patterns while your conscious mind is thinking ahead or managing the relationship with the client in other ways. 

4) Applying NLP for your own success: 

This means challenging yourself to apply NLP in ways that bring you into better relationships and success as you define it. It can even mean succeeding in ways you didn’t realize you could, or discovering definitions of success that are fresh and rewarding. From these successes comes much more confidence in NLP, much more dedication to using it, and much more personal charisma while using it. You become better able to sell your services and have an impact on your clients. 

5) Modeling: 

You begin modeling excellent people, so that you can develop additional models for your own benefit, the benefit of your clients, and the benefit of the NLP community. This can be in mental health, personal development, business, sports, politics, parenting, or any other area of human endeavor. Your understanding of NLP allows you to improve upon established models. 

6) Taking on more challenging clients and situations…

Such as corporate or social change, depending on your path and career, as your mastery deepens. You continue to learn new models and patterns.