Transform any mistakes you make from sources of shame and recrimination to sources of learning and empowerment.
Select your mistake.
Select a mistake which you are highly motivated not to repeat.
Clarify why it is a mistake.
Think over the criteria you used to decide that it was a mistake. For example, what values this mistake violated? Think back on the mistake and notice if you have violated a higher hierarchy value.
Access its negative feelings and intensify them.
Access the negative feelings that you have associated with this mistake. Amplify them until they are fairly intense, adding to your motivation not to repeat the mistake. Use all driver sub-modalities you have worked with successfully until now. Especially focus on the kinesthetic sub-modalities, since we want to amplify the feelings directly by intensifying the event that triggers them.
Learn from this mistake.
Shift your awareness to all that you can learn from the mistake. Shift your discomfort towards intensity and a drive for learning. Modulate the intensity so that you can learn without panicking. It is very valuable to learn to manage intensity, especially negative intensity, so that you can transform it into positive passion and drive.
Use different lenses to derive these learnings.
a. The history of the mistake:
What lead to it? How did the sequence take place from its earliest roots?
What parts were involved and what where their positive motives?
c. Behavior Mod:
What secondary benefits came from the patterns that contributed to this mistake? For example, is there a pattern of needing to be rescued, vindicated, avenged, or given attention? Finally, think about how learning from this will benefit you.
Reduce the negative emotions and apply resources to the mistake, including what you can learn from it.
Shift your focus to the emotions coming from all of this. Bring the negative emotions into the foreground. Imagine a big box with a heavy lid. Move the negative emotions into that box. Now bring the positive lessons into the foreground and take them with you as you float back over your timeline to the point at which this mistake occurred. Saturate that experience with these lessons and reconfigure the lessons so that they become active resource in this scenario. When you are satisfied, make all similar mistakes stand out along your timeline.
Cruise your entire timeline, beaming these lessons into each of those points in time, as you did with the main mistake.
Bring your attention back to the original mistake. As you review it, notice whether you still have any negative feelings about it. If so, see what learning and resources that you can apply to resolve those feelings. They may even be an ecological problem of some kind to work out. As you apply your resources, run the scene as a movie from third position (dissociated) until you are satisfied that it is a fully positive experience.
Over the coming days and weeks, see how your work on this mistake opens new perspectives and resourceful behavior for you.
What new results are you getting?
Do you feel better about any of your circumstances, or do you feel new hope for any pattern in your life?