Often times, when the discussion starts to make the client more vulnerable or exposed, the resistant part in them will either project or use blame or dismissive remarks at you in order to divert the conversation. By making you, the therapist, feel somewhat uncomfortable, the client gains control over their situation and blocks the distressing feelings that are floating around. We can reverse this attention by first not showing any signs of being surprised or upset about their remarks, and secondly, by asking: “I notice that when I say something you know deep inside, you seem to stop breathing? Do you notice that? How might you remind yourself to keep breathing?” Then, we can take this suggestion and, while exploring the vulnerable notions of the client, keep reminding him to breathe right before they’re about to speak again.