Recall a time when somebody you didn’t know well said, “thank you, you really helped me,” and you knew that they were really grateful.

Step 1: What was it like to be recognized, appreciated, and valued? #

Step 2: For a few moments, try to fully embrace that impression. #

Anchor it.

Step 3: Consider a time when a loved one complimented you on something helpful you did or said. #

Step 4: What was it like to be recognized, appreciated, and valued? #

Step 5: For a few moments, try to fully embrace that impression. #

Anchor it.

Step 6: Now think about a time when you were appreciated or valued without anyone saying so. #

Step 7: What was it like to be unconditionally recognized, appreciated, or valued? #

Step 8: For a few moments, try to fully embrace that sensation. #

What do you appreciate and respect the most about yourself? Anchor it.

Step 9: What qualities do the people who matter the most to you find most appealing in you? #

What characteristics do they admire?

Step 10: Consider your closest friend. #

What would he or she insist on valuing most about you if asked? Do you value the same qualities in yourself as your friend?

Step 11: What other parts of yourself do you value that others may not recognize? #

Anchor each

Step 12: Stack the anchors. #

Step 13: Test. #

When you find yourself in a new situation feeling overwhelmed, fire the driver anchor in the stack.