Source: Robert Dilts

Imagine the three timelines.

Create your resources.

Give them to your grandparent.

Experience this from the grandparent’s position.

Give them to your parent as the grandparent.

Experience this from the parent’s position.

Give them to yourself as the parent.

Experience this from your position as a baby.

Return to the present with these gifts.

Test.

Build your inner “good parent” experience by bringing your adult wisdom into your timeline.

Step 1: Consider the three possible timelines. #

One for yourself. One for your parents (any of them). One for your grandparents.

Step 2: Create your resources. #

Move to the third perceptual position, holding your awareness of your family system from a spiritual perspective and as part of a larger whole. Think of resources or gifts that would benefit the family in the form of a blessing, metaphor, or vision. It does not have to be the most amazing poem, but just a real statement of what you believe is the emotion that is missing the most.

Step 3: Imagine that, borne on wisdom and gratitude from the future into the present, you can float back over your timeline to your grandparent’s birth and early childhood. #

Imagine holding and touching your grandparent as an infant with the ethereal gentleness of a higher presence. Offer your blessings and metaphors.

Step 4: Experience this from the grandparent’s position. #

Bringing your vision, move to the second position, perceiving as your grandparent, and see yourself as a grandparent giving you the vision.Imagine experiencing this gentle holding and nurturance. Consider how you would feel if you received the blessing and metaphor.

Step 5: Give them to your parent as the grandparent. #

Holding these resources and gifts in your heart as the grandparent, move up along the time line to the birth and infancy of your parent (your grandparent’s child). In your grandparent’s position, gently pass on the blessing, metaphor, and vision. Use perceptual position # 2 to make this transition as smooth and natural as possible.

Step 6: Experience this from the parent’s position. #

Associate into the perceptual position of your parent. Imagine being held blessed and gentled, and receiving the metaphor and vision.

Step 7: As the parent, give them to yourself. #

Hold these resources in your heart. Now begin to float forward through your parent’s timeline through your own birth and infancy. From your parent’s perceptual position, bless and gently yourself, passing on the metaphor and vision.

Step 8: Experience this from the position of a baby. #

Move back into your own perceptual position, but as a baby.  Imagine being held, blessed and gently by your parents, receiving the metaphor and vision and being held gently.

Step 9: Return to the present with these gifts. #

As you continue ahead on your timeline, your timeline re-calibrates to these resources as you carry them through them. The blessing, metaphor, vision, and nurturing all contribute to the formation of new memories and qualities in your timeline. As you enter the present, you continue to have these gifts, knowing that they were passed down to you through countless generations.

Step 10: Test. #

In the coming days and weeks, watch for signs that you are benefiting from these gifts.