You may dwell on your weaknesses and feel self-conscious about them when you’re interested in starting a new relationship. However, you know deep down that you have a lot to give to someone else. If you aren’t aware of or don’t want to focus on these attributes, the people you wish to attract will get the impression that you don’t value them enough to be a partner. When we lack self-assurance in a relationship, we tend to believe that we don’t have anything to offer the other person. In relationships, we rely on the other person to define our worth and reassure us that we’re “good enough.” This pattern will help you change that.

Step 1: Initiate a downtime state. #

Step 2: In your mind, imagine that you have gathered all of your weaknesses into a wooden box, big or small, depending on how many you believe you have. #

Step 3: Then imagine locking the box so you can’t get to it. #

An anchor is the feeling you get when all of these weaknesses are out of sight and not easily accessible.

Step 4: Now that your weaknesses are out of the way, you can concentrate solely on your strengths. #

Break state.

Step 5: Make a list of all the good things about yourself that you can bring to a new partner, be it romantic, business, friendship, and so on. #

Step 6: If you cannot list more than 10 strengths, invite into your mind a piece that symbolizes a close friend or family member to share what they see as your favorable characteristics and skills. #

Step 7: Decide on which five strengths are the most important in any relationship, and anchor each one separately. #

Step 8: Break state. #

Step 9: Future pace Imagine a time in the near future in which you will have the potential to form a new relationship and fire the anchors one after the other, starting with the box locking anchor. #

Step 10: Alternatively, you can chain the anchors with the Changing Anchors pattern and fire only the first anchor to release the rest. #