Source: Robert Dilts

Connect with your loss of a person.

Access a resourceful, objective state.

Think of two entities to serve as your guardian angels.

Create a hologram of the person you have lost. Enliven this lost person’s image.

Experience this person as a mentor. Visualize a gift for this person, from your own perspective.

Create a heart connection with this person.

Share this experience. Join your mentor with your other mentors.

Bring these mentors and your gift into the loss situation to further your healing.

Resolve grief in a comforting, healing way.

1.Connect with your loss of a person. Pay attention to your feelings of separation, sadness, or grief. If this would be appropriate (depends on the situation and the people involved), start by thinking of the person you have lost.

Step 2: Gain access to a resourceful and objective state. #

Mentally move out of this, into a meta-state. Create a resourceful state of wisdom and balance. Take your time here and really get into this resourceful state.

Step 3: Consider two entities to be your guardian angels. #

Think of two people or entities that you would like to serve as your guardian angels. They must be two mentors that, in some sense, will always be part of you as a person.

Step 4: Create a hologram of the person you’ve lost. #

Use your hands and your imagination to “sculpt” a life-size hologram of the person you are missing. Imagine creating them in their ideal state. Notice painful or negative ideas or recollections in connection with this person. Now put the negativity into balloons with baskets to carry them away as you let them go.

Step 5: Enliven this lost person’s image. #

Imagine that you can invite a spiritual energy to bring the person to you in this form, with the ability to speak in their own voice.

Step 6: Experience this person as a mentor and visualize a gift from them. #

Experience it from their perspective. Notice how this person can be a new mentor for you. Ask this being, “What is the gift that you have wished to give me?” Go to the second perceptual position, perceiving yourself through their eyes, and allow the answer to come through. Visualize a symbol of the gift.

Step 7: Visualize a gift for this person, from your own perspective. #

Move back into your first position (seeing through your own eyes). Answer the same question: “What is the gift that you have wished to give me?” Imagine a symbol representing your gift to this person.

Step 8: Make an emotional connection with this person. #

Exchange these gifts, and imagine that your hearts are becoming gently connected by an eternal silver beam of energy.

Step 9: Tell someone about your experience. #

Honor this gift and its place in your life by sharing this experience with someone you trust. For now, imagine how you might share this gift, keeping it alive. Request insight from your new mentor, who can act as a resource in helping you share this gift and all of its meaning.

Step 10: Join your mentor with your other mentors. #

Experience your mentor’s welcoming and connect with your new mentor.

Step 11: Incorporate these mentors and your gift into your loss situation to aid in your healing. #

Bring your gift and your mentors, including your guardian angels, into the loss situation. Give yourself time to experience their healing and insightful energies as they transform your sense of balance, knowledge, and expansion as a person.