Milton H. Erickson’s work as a renowned psychotherapist and hypnotist served as the inspiration for Richard Bandler and John Grinder’s powerful set of linguistic patterns and techniques known as the Milton Model. These language patterns are intended to influence and communicate with the unconscious mind by circumventing conscious resistance and inducing trance states. Therapists and communicators can use the Milton Model to facilitate positive change, promote creativity, and improve rapport with others. Let’s take a look at each of the Milton Model patterns with examples:

  1. Vague Language: Using ambiguous and open-ended statements to engage the listener’s imagination and encourage the unconscious mind to fill in the gaps is an example of vague language. It allows the therapist to maintain interpretive flexibility while inviting the client to explore their own meanings.

“You may find yourself drifting into a state of relaxation, feeling calm and at ease, as you go deeper within your own experience.”

  1. Utilization: The ability to adapt and use the client’s responses, behaviors, and language patterns to guide the therapeutic process is referred to as utilization. The therapist incorporates whatever the client presents into the therapeutic journey.

Client: “I don’t know if I can overcome this fear.” “That’s fine; it’s natural to have doubts.” We may discover new resources to face your fear with confidence as we explore these feelings together."

  1. Ambiguity: Ambiguity is the use of language to create confusion or uncertainty in order to bypass the conscious mind’s analytical thinking and engage the unconscious mind. This can provide the client with new perspectives and opportunities.

“As you begin to consider what changes you’d like to make, you may notice that your mind is already exploring different pathways.”

  1. Embedded Commands: Embedded commands are suggestions that are subtly incorporated within sentences. The command may be disguised, but the unconscious mind can still pick it up.

“Relax and take a deep breath now, allowing yourself to feel more comfortable in this moment.”

  1. Tag Questions: Tag questions are questions that assume the listener’s agreement and invite them to consider specific ideas or perspectives.

“You do feel more confident in your abilities now, don’t you?”

  1. Pace and Lead: Pace and lead entails developing rapport with the client by matching their language, emotions, and behaviors and then gently leading them to the desired therapeutic outcomes.

“I see you’ve been through some difficult times, and together, we can find the strength to overcome them.”

  1. Double Binds: Double binds provide the client with two options, both of which lead to the same desired outcome, encouraging them to embrace positive change.

“Would you like to feel relaxed and at ease right now or later in the session?”

  1. Stories and Metaphors: Using stories and metaphors allows the therapist to communicate complex ideas in an indirect manner, engaging the client’s unconscious mind and stimulating their imagination.

“Imagine a caterpillar transforming into a beautiful butterfly, just like how you can transform and grow from your past experiences.”

Therapists, coaches, and communicators can create a deeper understanding and connection with others by skillfully integrating Milton Model patterns into their communication. These patterns are effective not only in therapeutic settings but also in daily conversations, public speaking, and persuasive communication. The Milton Model enables people to tap into their unconscious resources, effect positive change, and improve their overall communication skills.