Model states of excellence. This pattern requires three people: The Person Being Modeled and two Modelers.

Step 1: Establish a pattern of excellence. #

Have the Person Being Modeled enter a state of excellence.

Step 2: Model the Person Being Modeled. #

Have the first Modeler explicitly model the Person Being Modeled from the second position.

Step 3: Model with how and why questions. #

Have the second Modeler explicitly model the Person Being Modeled. Have them ask why questions to elicit beliefs, values, meta-programs, meta-outcomes, and have them ask how questions to elicit goals, and T.O.T.E.S. (evidences and operations).

Step 4: Demonstrate the opposite state. #

Have the first Modeler choose an experience that is the opposite of the state of excellence being modeled, such as a stuck state.

Step 5: Repeat steps two and three. #

Have the two Modelers repeat steps two and three.

Step 6: Compare and contrast. #

Have the Modelers compare and contrast their models of what the Person Being Modeled has demonstrated, as well as their opposite, and explore what is similar and different in these descriptions.

Step 7: Test. #

Over the coming weeks and months, discuss how well the participants have been coming along in learning to model and establish rapport.