Let’s look at it from another angle, shall we?

You need to take a more global view on this one.

“If you saw this from MY side…”

We use perspectives all the time, numerous times a day. You can’t really get through your day without using a whole lot of different perspectives.

And here’s a clue: the perspective you use to think and visualize a situation might be crucial for the understanding and conclusions you draw. Perspectives, in many cases, are the ones you use to make decisions.

You change your mind when you change your perspective. We have all had those arguments when we finally were brave enough to look at the situation from our rival’s point of view… and we felt they were right. We were wrong because we took a certain perspective which was not congruent with reality.

There are many useful ways for you to explore the visual sub-modalities. You could choose, for example, to take the global view, as if you’re a bird flying up there and seeing it all from above… You could get out of your own body (mentally, of course) and go around your mate’s shoulders and see the interaction from that perspective.

You might decide to take a more distant point of view, a closer one, a higher one, a lower one, etc. Whatever creative perspective you can come up with, the more angels you use to look at a serious situation, the more choices and information you get.