Source: Suzie Smith & Tim Halborn

Explore your memories for places where you had pleasant experience.

Describe the attributes of this person.

Work with the second perceptual position, in the loving person.

Anchor this appreciation state.

Receive the loving perception.

Anchor the lovable state.

Test and future pace the anchor.

Enhance your ego strength and self-esteem by improving your ability to love and appreciate yourself.

Step 1: Explore your pleasant memories of someone who intensely cared about you and who had a positive effect on you. #

This person will serve as a model for love, so it must not be a person who misuses any power or influence to harm or manipulate you.

Step 2: To get a full sense of the elements that you feel contribute to being a loving person, describe the attributes or qualities of this person, particularly those that made them a loving person. #

Step 3: Work with the second perceptual position, in the loving person. #

Imagine floating over to this person and taking their perceptual position. See yourself through their eyes. Describe yourself from their perspective. What qualities about you does this person appreciate? Notice how this expands your sense of yourself as a loving and lovable person.

Step 4: Anchor this appreciation state. #

Use an appropriate image, word, touch, or other stimulus to anchor this state.

Step 5: Be open to receiving the loving perception. #

Tune in to your sense of the person who is adoring you. Imagine allowing this in as a form of energy. Fully experience your feelings as the person looks lovingly at you. Also, experience your own feelings of self-appreciation. Attend to your self-talk and how it reflects these perspectives. In any way, these experiences change how you perceive the world around you in this memory.

Step 6: Anchor the lovable state. #

Filter out any distractions from this lovable state and amplify it. Anchor it with an appropriate stimulus. Now you have anchored a loving and lovable state that is also tied to qualities that you and others can appreciate about you. Take some time to enjoy any new ideas and perspectives that you have experienced for yourself.

Step 7: Test. #

and Future Pace this anchor. Fire the anchor of being lovable. Future pace by imagining situations in which it would be helpful to be in touch with your own lovability. Remember that these future situations do not have to be situations in which you are guaranteed approval. In fact, some situations might involve people who don’t appreciate you at all. Imagine being around people like that, but with your inner sense of your own lovability unshaken. Think about how much more difficult it is to manipulate or intimidate someone experiencing this high lovability level that you are amplifying.