On occasion, a client will come in and say that everything is great in their lives, and that’s why they are so worried and anxious. They’re afraid that this goodness is only temporary and that at any second a disaster will hit them and break their lives apart. This fear of loss, especially after a lucky strike or a string of successful achievements, can be solved by establishing a new frame of reference. The client is not afraid of losing money, for example, but of losing the emotional responses they currently feel due to that success. They might, for example, fear losing independence due to losing that money.

Step 1: Initiate a downtime state. #

Step 2: Identify the personal experience that is at risk of being lost. #

If it’s stated as an external resource, such as money or friends, ask the client what it means to them.

Step 3: Access and associate into the personal experience-what does “independence” feel like? #

What do you see, hear, and sense?

Step 4: Define the boundaries of the current personal experience. #

If you had a container in your hands, how big would it need to be to fit the current feeling of “independence”?

Step 4: Now stretch your arms and pretend the container is getting bigger and bigger. #

And just how much independence can you personally handle? How much personal freedom can you stand?

Step 5: Associate into the stretched personal experience and anchor it. #

Step 6: What came first-the thirst for “independence” (fire anchor 1) or the money? #

Step 7: Future pace-What will come next, in the coming weeks, as you shift your focus from external objects to (fire anchor 2), how much “independence” can you stand? #

Step 8: Test. #

Think about your limiting beliefs. Does it still cause the same emotional reaction, or how is it different?