Blamers externalize blame and appear to be always ready to place the blame in a harsh or judgmental way. When things go wrong, the blamer starts blaming. The blamer also pushes their thoughts and feelings onto everyone else. In NLP, you may see blamers referred to as skunks because they spray their criticism outward. Blamers, like all the categories, have their own body language. When they’re in blaming mode, they point their finger at people and have a firm, controlling style of body language. They tend to use confusion tactics to make it easier to get the blame to stick without too much resistance from others. They do this with meta-model violations such as over-generalizing, connecting ideas that don’t belong together, and making claims for which there is no proof. Blamers can end up pretty lonely because their behavior is alienating. They do their best with very like-minded people and stay at peace with them by focusing their blame on the same people or groups. This forms a kind of bond. Inside, the blamer may not be nearly as confident and secure as they appear. Blaming can serve to compensate for vulnerabilities such as the fear of judgement and feeling so small as to need to align with a larger authority that justifies being blaming in service of that larger authority. Blamers generally blame in the name of a system, such as a family, church, employer, or political cause. As an employer or supervisor, they may be held responsible in the name of profit. Blame can be a strategy for office politics. Blamers use general statements, complex comparisons, and missing proof to confuse the other person, and then place the blame. Such people usually end up alone, since nobody wants to be at the receiving end of the blame.