Boundaries

Nesting means that an idea is contained within another. That can happen in the form of a story that occurs within another story. The purpose is to …

“You know, this is amazing because for the last few days I didn’t really get any question about this method, although it is quite an impressive and …

Source: Milton H. Erickson Create a well-formed outcome. Come up with an indirect suggestion. Build the five stories and cue points. Introduce the …

Source: Tad James Step 1: Identify each of the parties’ positions in the disagreement. # Step 2: Make absolutely sure there is a chance for potential …

One way of knowing what something is is to understand what it is not. That is, when does something stop being itself and start being something else? …

One of the most common linguistically based self-induced suffering habits is awfulizing. “Awfulizing” is a term used to describe thinking that is …

I’m tempted to call this a starter matrix, but it is so fundamental to thinking about problems. This matrix may look simple, but it is very flexible …

Model states of excellence. This pattern requires three people: The Person Being Modeled and two Modelers. Step 1: Establish a pattern of excellence. …

Modal operators make a “must” out of a preference. Albert Ellis, the developer of rational emotive therapy, focused a great deal on this one. People …

Source: Robert Dilts Select a behavior that needs to be updated. Elicit the limited beliefs that are part of the behavior. Think of a negative outcome …