Responsibility

For many years, as a private therapist, I used grief procedures and value hierarchies to help clients deal with the loss of the life of an unborn …

Some things you shouldn’t mirror. For example, if someone is aggressively attempting to be the alpha dog, you need to be more creative. But if you …

Notice how we have gone beyond physical mirroring to include things of symbolic value. This is symbolic mirroring, and the symbolic behavior is often …

Enhance your ability to establish rapport and to model excellence. This pattern builds a useful “second position” with another person. This ability is …

Not all your mirroring has to use the same parts of the body, just as your symbolic mirroring does not necessarily use exactly the same words. For …

In behavioral mirroring, you match behaviors that have symbolic meaning. They are mostly subconscious. In fact, the more subconscious they are, the …

You can help a client enter a rapid TDS by asking, “What happens when you imagine X?”. For example, if the client says she would like to have a better …

Mind reading is an irritating distortion. This happens when someone decides they know what you are thinking. For some reason, it’s usually something …

The unconscious is always looking for solutions, but our defenses and traumas can keep us from connecting the dots. We have evolved to digest our …

Practice using metaphors to achieve therapeutic ends. Metaphor is essentially the use of symbolic events or items to symbolize something else. Many …