How It's Not About You Worksheet

Instructions #

This table can assist you as a therapist in reframe your client’s tendency to take everything personally.

By drawing a clear distinction between what your client believes is about them and how it is not, you can challenge their subjective assumptions and broaden their perspective.

The table includes a variety of scenarios and contexts from everyday life, demonstrating that there are numerous factors at work outside of your client’s personal sphere.

During sessions, you can use this table to facilitate discussions and raise awareness about your client’s tendency to personalize situations.

You can help your client recognize alternative explanations and perspectives that highlight how the situation is unrelated to them personally by walking them through each scenario.

Encourage your client to consider their initial assumptions and the effects of taking things personally on their emotions and well-being.

This exercise assists your client in developing a more objective and balanced perspective, thereby reducing unnecessary feelings of self-blame, insecurity, or distress.

It fosters an understanding that many outside factors influence events and interactions, and that people’s actions or circumstances are not always directed at your client personally.

You can help your client build resilience, improve self-esteem, and cultivate a healthier perspective on their experiences by guiding them through this reframing process.